(To get the back story, check out 'Lessons that Depression Taught Me During Pregnancy')
I didn't want to suffer in silence...
...so I sat across from a psychiatrist who told me that medication was the only way and if I didn't take the prescription the depression would become even worse postpartum.
That was 20 minutes after our first meeting.
I refused and he looked at me in disbelief. I knew there had to be a better, more sustainable way.
(How many others, in the depths of their depression, desperately take that little piece of paper and walk out, clutching onto it as though there are no other options?* I wondered to myself.)
Everywhere I turned to for help, I felt more alone than I did before. I kept searching for a support system but came up short, from radio silence from friends, to crumbling relationships, to pill-pushing medical professionals.
Where's the lesson in this? I asked.
What would happen if, instead of looking everywhere outside of me for the answers, I looked to my own resiliency? What would happen if I believed in my own strength? The power of my mind? What would happen if I let go of the desire to control my circumstances and trusted that everything was happening, exactly as it should?
I became a student of myself and leaned deeper than I ever have before into my intuition, into surrender, into trust.
I was in the throes of transition like I've never experienced before and it felt wobbly, far from perfect, and wildly uncomfortable. At the same time... it felt expansive and empowering. I had experienced what one might call "The Dark Night of the Soul" before, but this was different. This felt like an upheaval of everything I thought I knew, my life was shaking around me and I was trying to figure out which pieces would stay, and which would go. I was rebuilding my belief system piece by piece and learning discovering the depth of trust in myself and in my greater purpose.
If you find yourself dismantling the old to make way for the new... keep going.
If there's a voice inside you that's telling you there must be a better way... listen to it.
If you know deep down that something has to change, even though it feels uncomfortable, even though there's a million excuses in which you could drawn upon... lean into that change.
We're wired for instant gratification but the quick fix isn't doing anything for what your soul is truly craving. When you trust in the slow and steady process, not only can you listen to the guidance that will drop down, but you'll integrate the lessons into every fibre of your being. That's the way it needs to be in order for transformation to be sustainable.
It took me months of climbing up and down metaphorical mountains to reach a space where I felt at home in my body again, and that's because I know now that everything needed to crumble so I could build from the foundation up.
And I'll continue to let my life lead the way.
This is for you: the one looking for a change after feeling stuck and unsure for far too long. Searching for the clarity and confidence so you can finally wake up feeling alive again. You know now that there's no more room for resistance and playing small, and actually, it's getting quite boring. You're ready to step into the version of yourself that you've been too scared to in the past. You're ready to become the leader of your life.
You just have to make the leap.
If you feel called to, I'd love for you to comment or reach out and let me know how this landed for you.
*Medication is not the enemy and does work for some people who suffer from depression or other mental health issues. I fully support anyone who has made an educated decision for themselves that works and feels right to them. My issue is that often it has become a first resort to bandage up the underlying concerns without exploring a individualized approach unique to the person suffering.